We go through many things as women – we tend and befriend, often instead of fight or flight. We endure pain and suffering when we experience losses of almost any type. And I’m sure you could name more. However, this is about us rising from those hurts intended or not. This is about being joyous despite the bumps and bruises. Read More
This one is a tougher one to write. It’s about the loss of intimacy and relationships. Two sayings come to mind:
1. “You don’t miss your water til your well runs dry.” and
So, how do you cope after the initial diagnosis? Sleepless and worried or relieved and thinking? Maybe tired? These are things you may go through whether or not you have had a Breast Cancer diagnosis.
Sometimes I just keep going when I know I should stop and rest. I mean, I feel good. Somehow, I feel I have to keep going to make up for those times when I don’t feel good and can’t keep going. If you identified with this – Stop right now and let’s figure out how you can get the rest you need, without feeling guilty. Read More
As the Blog ebbs and flows, I am trying to navigate it to a place where those who have experienced breast cancer can find ways to connect – to build themselves up. This is also a place where family & friends can learn & help. We all need help whether it’s a kind word, a walk outside, a cup of soup, a lobster dinner, calling a friend, a game of monopoly, a good partner in bid whist, a fashion tip, a new exercise routine, a new magazine or lipstick color, playing with my grandson. “Oh, sorry those were some of the things that give me a lift.” Read More
Chemo brain! Okay, this is when the chemotherapy drugs have affected your body and mind. The literature says you may not remember certain things or think clearly. There are conflicting views about how long this forgetfulness/fogginess may last. Read More
We have to listen to our bodies telling us what is & what is not essential for our health. We need to do this so we can stop giving our energy to everything and everybody. This Body Image & Healing Blog was created primarily for friends & family who are in support of women (some 50 and over) who have had or have breast cancer. “So why, you ask, are women 50 and older concerned with their body image?” “Because we’ve still got a body!”
We are concerned about how we look. Now, we are not necessarily swayed so much by what we see on television. We are not trying to fit into what a 20 or 30-year-old would wear. That does not mean we don’t care about how we look or how we carry ourselves. “And carry ourselves, we will.” smh
This leads to my second point. We know that we must keep moving. “Sitting is the new smoking.” Ideally, we should stand up every 30 minutes throughout the day. The ideal number of times to do this would be 12-15 times. I created my own standing desk with books and a wastebasket so I can stand and sit from time to time. This type of variety is needed since standing on your feet all day is not the best thing either. The surest way to the beginning of ill health for many of us, is to stop moving!
“So what is an appropriate mindset for us?” “I don’t know.” Fifty or 60-years-old is not what your mother or grandmother thought when they were that same age.” “I think it’s what you think, what you believe, what you do!” We can do so much more! We can walk, we can keep ourselves active and we can keep our minds active! We can engage with people of ALL ages. Those are the kinds of things that keep us, okay, relatively young. It is not how quickly you come up with the answer that counts, but… (Check out the book.)
This Body Image & Healing Blog was created for family, friends and those going through breast cancer who were primarily women 50 and over. “So why are women 50 and older concerned with body image?” “Because we’ve still got a body!” It’s important to us how we look. Now, we are not necessarily swayed so much by what we see on television.
Make it Work!
We are not trying to fit into what a 20-year-old, a 30-year-old would wear. That does not mean we don’t care about how we look or how we carry ourselves. And carry ourselves, we will. We know that we must keep moving. “Sitting is the new smoking.” Ideally, we should stand up every 30 minutes we are at work it we work a 9-5 job. I created a standing desk with books and a wastebasket so I can stand and sit from time to time. A variety of movement is needed throughout the day, since standing on your feet all day is not the best thing to do. The surest way to the beginning of ill-health for many of us, is to stop moving!
It’s all in your Head!
We’re also concerned about how we think as we age. As our pastor said the other day “If you’re old, you’re not going to regress and get young, you’re going to stay old, but that doesn’t mean we have an old mind-set.
“So what mindset should one have who is over 50 years old?” “I don’t know.” Fifty or 60-years-olds are not thinking the way your mother thought or your grandmother thought when she was 60.” “I think it’s what you think, what you believe, what you do!” We can do so much more! We can walk, we can keep ourselves active and we can keep our minds active! We can engage with people of ALL ages. Those are the kinds of things that keep us young.
My Loctician, April can do amazing things with locs! Little did I know when she told me to save my locs, there was a bigger reason. When I lost my locks in 2010, she cut them off and the barber shaved my head. At that time my locs were about 7-12 inches long. Read More
You never know where or when blessings are going to show up. After I lost my locs and was newly bald, I Read More