I just got back from New York! I attended my cousin Bobbie’s ordination. Yes, she became an ordained minister! “I love her, everyone who meets her loves her.”


The day after I got there I attended a memorial service for one of her mother’s best friends. The lady who passed away was one of Bobbie’s good friends, as well. Mrs. T lived in the neighborhood in which Bobbie grew up and lives.



It’s All Relative
I got to know my cousin Bobbie by first meeting her through her real cousin, John, who is my real cousin on his mom’s side. Bobbie is John’s cousin on his father’s side. Ya’ll know how this works.


Bobbie told me while I was in New York, that our Aunt Harriette (John’s mom) (who was my aunt on a different side of the family, remember?) wanted us to meet as little kids, but I was in Arkansas and she was in New York.


Bobbie thought Aunt Harriette wanted us to meet because Bobbie only had brothers and I was an only girl child. Anyway, I can’t even begin to explain the right and left turns of her thinking as a child.


I think Aunt Harriette just really wanted us to meet because she thought it would be great for us to know each other. And here we are some, I don’t know 40 years later, being great friends and calling each other cousin (without explanations).



The Journey
In the midst of the ordination process she joined too many of us on a Breast Cancer journey. At one point, she even questioned continuing the ordination process. Well, she received treatment and was able to make it through the process while pursuing ministry and working full-time.

Some people wonder “Why me?” and logically that seems right – after all, we are human. However, even when things happen to us that we don’t understand, often there’s a larger purpose which we may or may not ever know.
The Answer to Why

But when we suffer and hurt, maybe we are better able to tend to those who are suffering and hurting. I’m sure God was preparing her along the way with the various positions and networks (again these are my thoughts).


So I spent the weekend with Bobbie, other relatives and friends. Not only did she get ordained, ceremonially, but you could feel the love throughout the ceremony and the reception. The love we felt in the sanctuary, in the annex, just helped us understand more of God‘s work.”



What Counts?
Okay readers, I said all that to say – Life is a journey and we don’t know what God has in store for us, as we go through our own ups and downs. People touch our lives, friends come and go, some stay for a season, others for a lifetime. Do not reject the idea of making new friends.


This was so much more than a single culminating ceremony.  This was a new beginning for her and I can’t wait to see what God has in store!


“Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.” Maya Angelou


Dr. Harriette


Let me know what you think.