Dr. H. Richard & Dr. C. West

We go through many things as women – we tend and befriend, often instead of fight or flight. We endure pain and suffering when we experience losses of almost any type. And I’m sure you could name more. However, this is about us rising from those hurts intended or not. This is about being joyous despite the bumps and bruises.


Seeing Ourselves through Others Eyes
It’s funny how sometimes we do care about what other people think about how we look. The other day I got my locks done. I usually use the styles I leave the salon with to curl my locks so I take them down after a day or two. There are a few exceptions like the Bantu Knots and a couple of twisted or linked ones.


I wanted a different look so when my loctician (April) asked what I had in mind, I told her I had been thinking about a Mohawk. So, she fashioned a cool semi-Mohawk on my head. I loved it!


After seeing that style, my spouse of almost 44 years made a most interesting comment. He said “I don’t know if I think I don’t like it.” To be fair, this was the first time I ever remember him saying anything that might be construed as negative.


Oh, I also texted a picture of my hair to my daughters who offered no comment at all. (We ALL know what that means.)


I’m not sure, but I might have taken it down earlier than normal because Edward didn’t look at me very much at dinner.  (Maybe it was my imagination.) Then I wondered if he had actually said he didn’t like it would my natural inclination have been to keep it up longer because I liked it.  “After all, it’s my hair!” Sometimes we waaay over think things.



Hair Style Choices
That’s when I started wondering about my hair style choices – intended and unintended. Who did I choose them for and why? When I looked back at them, too many and too varied to count, I concluded most were my choice.


In high school, I changed the style almost everyday. A few decades later, fairly frequently. Lately, not so much. See, a rut is forming!


One of my best friends recently cut her hair off and her fierce photo also prompted me to look at how we feel about our “crowning glory”. Most of us who have been through that cancer journey know 1st hand what that day – hour – minute looks like when you realize your hair is coming out. We take it in stride, because we knew the time was coming, however it is none-the-less traumatic.  Previous posts on hair – Wigless Thanksgiving, Wiggy, An Unexpected Blessing, and Loctician Magician



What Counts?
Well, I want to bear witness that most of us have tried it all and this little bump in the road is just that!  For those who have gone through long hair, short hair, curly hair, straight hair, no hair, someone else’s hair, dyed hair, fried hair, laid-to-the side hair, this is for you! Play the song list below compiled by Yoga Journal or create your own and let it rip! Because it’s just hair.



Breast Cancer Warrior Songs

What song(s) would you add to this list?


Btw, this is how my hair looked a couple of days later.

Dr. Harriette






“There would be no hair growing business today had I not started it.” Madam C. J. Walker

“I want the great masses of my people to take a greater pride in their personal appearance and to give their hair proper attention.” Madam C. J. Walker


Let me know what you think.